Am I wasting my time? Does what I do matter? Am I on the right path or did I miss my destiny?
I know that I am not the only one who wonders about such things, but sometimes it feels like it. Do you ever think to yourself that everyone else succeeds in their efforts in business except you? Have you looked at other people who are in the same industry, then lose confidence because you’ve determined you are unable to do as good of a job or are unqualified to be in your industry?
Funny how comparison can twist our perspective and make us doubt ourselves.
For me, and I think for most, these types of thoughts come late at night. The dark, quiet hours of the evening often welcomes creative ideas, but also, it is not uncommon for many to experience thoughts of doubt and anxiety over our life purpose and question our professional abilities. There has been many a night that I convinced myself I should just give up because I wasn’t “good enough”.
However, in the safety of the morning sunlight, we shake our heads and wonder why those silly thoughts came anyway. It’s like your mind is irrational after 10 p.m. and then the rational switch warms up around 5 am. By 6 or 7 am we realize how ridiculous those thoughts were, feel rejuvenated to tackle the day – and start the cycle all over. Occasionally, the thoughts can be so intense and convincing we can carry them throughout the next day and allow it to alter our decisions and chip away at our confidence.
How many people have given up on their dreams or desires because of doubts? Or because they experience a prolonged plateau in their life?
Article: Convergence, by Lance Wallnau
The one thing I have noticed about our tech-savvy society is that everything is in our face all the time. People broadcast and promote their successes and beautiful lives (real or imagined) on social media. We like and admire the posts and are even excited for them at first. But after a few minutes of scrolling through the lives of other people, it doesn’t take long to realize your thoughts are telling you how much you wish you had their success.
Top coaches and business people all agree and teach how devasting comparison is to us personally and professionally – but at the same time, our eyes are inundated with stories and images of how great someone else’s life is. Are they not promoting themselves and asking us to compare our life to theirs? That is how so many people are making their money…by showing us how great their life is and selling us something so we can be like them.
Fact is, comparison is big business.
I believe that many people do not do it purposely, but some do. Yet, it is hard to separate the information and skills someone has to offer with the life that they live. As a blogger and writer, I have to make sure I don’t start comparing my writing to that of others, nor can I compare how many readers I have to someone else who is in the national spotlight. When I compare, that is when discouragement sets in.
There is a verse from the Bible that keeps repeating itself over and over:
Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin… Zechariah 4:10
As I lay awake the other night, pondering my work and whether I was moving in the right or wrong direction professionally, this verse came to mind again. I was reminded that those who succeed in what they do are the ones who never give up. Also, not everyone is meant to be popular and well-known. There are more individuals who have made history by quietly doing their work and impacting one life at a time. They may not have received accolades and certificates and big paychecks, but they did what they were called to do and they did it well.
I admire that.
When we do what we do because we love it and because we love the people that come across our path, then we have achieved “success”. Some of us will grow big businesses and make a name for ourselves. Others of us may not have the fame and fortune, but the impact on our sphere of influence is no less significant.
We all start with small beginnings. Let’s not give up before we get started. And whether we become a household name, social media celebrity, or develop a mass following, remember there is only one you who can do what you do the way you do it (that was a lot of do’s!).
- YOU and I are making a difference.
- YOU and I need to keep going.
- YOU and I have something to offer.
Remove doubt, avoid comparison, and be patient. You are on the right track. Do not despise the days of small beginnings. You are doing great!
If you don’t quit, you win.